What Can You Do About That Frown of Anger?: A group of suggestions for when you or a family member or friend with anger problems.
For some people, anger can be a serious problem. For example, some people feel angry all the time, over even little things. Others get angry very easily and lose their tempers quickly. Some people become angry over things that happened in the past and which cannot be changed. There are many more examples of people who have serious anger problems. For them and for their family members, friends and co-workers, life can be hell.
If you are one of these people, you might think that you will never change – but the truth is that most people can change if they really want to. Below is a list of suggestions which may help you control your anger or help someone else do so.
1) The first step is to admit to yourself that you have an anger problem and that it’s causing problems in your life. If you can’t be honest with yourself about this, then it’s unlikely that you will ever change.
2) Learn to relax: Many people who have trouble with anger also have trouble simply relaxing at home or relaxing their muscles to release tension when they feel angry or frustrated. Try progressive muscle
You couldnt be forced to smile even if you wanted to. You dont want to smile. You dont want to be happy. You want to punch something, and then you want that something to fall down and stay down.
But what if you had a frowning problem?
You cant force yourself to frown, but you can let your features go slack and go vacant, which is just as good as frowning and much more socially acceptable.
What can you do about that frown of anger? How can you stop it? There is no one right answer because there are so many possible factors behind an angry face. But here are some suggestions:
Think of something calming or relaxing before the situation begins. This may seem impossible now, but it often works. If it doesnt work, at least give it a try before moving on to the next idea.
Find a way to turn your emotions off for a moment, even for just a few seconds, when you feel yourself becoming angry. It may be helpful to visualize a switch that turns off your anger. If this does not work for you, simply imagine putting on a mask or using other techniques (see below).
When you are in an argument with a person with anger problems, it can be difficult to find ways to calm them down. They may be demanding that you immediately do what they want, or they may be verbally abusive. These are suggestions for dealing with this situation.
For some people, calming down takes a long time. They may not be able to calm down as fast as you would like. If you need to calm down, give yourself the time you need. You can also try:
• Taking slow deep breaths.
• Counting backwards from ten slowly.
• Using relaxation techniques such as those found at: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/stress-relief/SR00036
• Drinking some water and waiting five minutes before saying anything else to the other person (count backwards from 300 by threes).
• Going for a walk outside and waiting ten minutes before returning to the situation.
Recognize when you are angry and make a conscious decision to do something about it. If you need to, get away from the situation that is making you angry. Take a walk, go for a drive, or sit quietly in a room by yourself. For example, if you are in the office and your boss makes you angry, don’t confront him/her then; rather, tell them that you will discuss it later.
If you are talking with someone who is making you angry and you need to get away from the situation, make an excuse (e.g., “I’m sorry but I have an appointment now.”) and leave. If you feel like hitting, punching your fist into your palm may help relieve some of the tension.
Take slow deep breaths until you calm down and feel relaxed or until your breathing rate returns to normal.
Try to be assertive rather than aggressive when expressing anger. Assertiveness involves clearly stating what upset us without insulting or attacking the other person; whereas aggressiveness involves threatening or intimidating others in order to get our way and often includes swearing, yelling or physical violence (e.g., hitting).
If appropriate, apologize for doing or saying things that upset others (“I’m sorry I shouted
Anger is a condition that often has a cause and can be relieved by taking action. It is an emotion that everyone experiences at one time or another and in varying degrees, ranging from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.
The physiological effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Anger triggers the body’s “fight or flight” reaction, preparing you to respond aggressively to defend yourself from harm. In many people, the experience of anger can be so unpleasant that they try to suppress it rather than express it constructively.
Although it is tempting to stuff anger inside and try to ignore it, this approach can have serious consequences for you physically, emotionally, and socially. Uncontrolled anger can take a heavy toll on both your health and your relationships with others.
Angry people are more likely than others to suffer from heart disease, high blood pressure, peptic ul
1. Write down the specific things that you do that make you angry, and make a list of solutions to the problem.
2. Let the person know when he is acting angry.
3. Ask for understanding from your friends or family members about how you feel.
4. Ask for help from a doctor or a counselor, who can help you control your anger.
5. If a friend or family member is angry at you, try to understand why he is angry, and don’t take it personally if he is angry at you for something you did wrong in a relationship.
6. Find out what triggers your anger and try to avoid those situations as much as possible.
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